Feb 04, 2010 Think I might have an eating disorder?

by trisha

My doctor says I need to lose weight because of my health and my Mom and Dad both have diabetes and blood pressure but Ive tried lots of times befor and nothing works. I try not to eat coz my bfriend says Im too fat but he keeps buying me junk food and then we have a argument and he shouts at me Im such a fat b***. When he goes home i then binge eat big time and know hes right. I eat until i feel sick but i dont make myself sick. Im so miserable do i have an eating disorder?

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Feb 04, 2010

Hi Trisha
by: Matt C

Hi Trisha! Welcome to our new forum, and congratulations on being the first poster! :)

It certainly sounds like you are eating in response to emotional triggers which is understandable considering your story!

You need to find someone who you can talk to about this, someone who you trust and feel safe with. Can you talk to your parents about what you are going through? Or a trusted friend? You do not give your age – if you are at school or college there may be a counselor you could contact?

You say your doctor has stressed the need to reduce your weight for health reasons – well, you need to tell her/him about your binge eating, because if someone has emotional problems and a history of disordered eating, then conventional weight loss advice will not be effective until your emotional issues are resolved first and you have a more balanced relationship with food. Your doctor should be able to refer you to see someone who can assess you properly for eating disorders and offer professional help if needed.

Your boyfriend is being abusive and really unfair to you. Have you been able to tell him how it makes you feel when he says such cruel things to you, and that he is making the situation worse? He needs to support you rather than hurt you more. You could show him this website and ask him to read some relevant pages to try to get him to understand what you are going through – even show him your forum post if you find it hard to tell him to his face?

Have a look at our Find Help pages for more information on finding support, and please post back soon to let us know how things are going!

Best wishes,
Matt C

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Hi Trisha! Welcome to our new forum, and congratulations on being the first poster! :) It certainly sounds like you are eating in response to emotional triggers which is understandable considering your story! You need to find someone who you can talk to about this, someone who you trust and feel safe with. Can you talk to your parents about what you are going through? Or a trusted friend? You do not give your age – if you are at school or college there may be a counselor you could contact? You say your doctor has stressed the need to reduce your weight for health reasons – well, you need to tell her/him about your binge eating, because if someone has emotional problems and a history of disordered eating, then conventional weight loss advice will not be effective until your emotional issues are resolved first and you have a more balanced relationship with food. Your doctor should be able to refer you to see someone who can assess you properly for eating disorders and offer professional help if needed. Your boyfriend is being abusive and really unfair to you. Have you been able to tell him how it makes you feel when he says such cruel things to you, and that he is making the situation worse? He needs to support you rather than hurt you more. You could show him this website and ask him to read some relevant pages to try to get him to understand what you are going through – even show him your forum post if you find it hard to tell him to his face? Have a look at our Find Help pages for more information on finding support, and please post back soon to let us know how things are going! Best wishes, Matt C

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